Guys I need some help, I dont know what kind of trans to call myself to communicate properly. I know how I feel Im just bad with terms. :trans_heart:

trans terms help please 

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Im ian ntersex enby. Its hard to know how much the hormonal transision affected me. It went on through most of puberty. I didnt have a real period or hips or boobs when I started. I started getting chin hairs. My shoulders had started getting broad. This is when the birth control started at 13. at 15 theyreplaced with diane 35. on and off as migraines came and went. I spent most of puberty on the meds. Id go back on when I started to develop "wrong"

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@PentagramPip genderqueer, maybe? a lot of genderqueer folks i know don't limit their expression to just male-passing and tend to express a lot of different sides of gender


This abstract/detailed/data as a dominant way of thinking vs construct/framework/narrative way of experiencing reality is really powerful. Im really glad im autistic honestly.

I feel a metaphor/story coming together about autism and Christianity. That on some level, to some, we are not of this world.

I think humans experience reality more in each others heads than they do physical space in many ways.

gender is like that for me.

@paideuomai @gentlerdarknesses

as long as other trans and queer people can understand me, im ok. Having that will give me more confidence to draw parallels with other aspects of my experience to people who dont understand my gender. Theyll relate to me better that way than if I perfectly define the terms. But if people living the same thing as me dont understand my words, im not using them right. Its how i see it I guess.

@PentagramPip Totally understandable. The trans world varies in acceptance of nonbinary people. We've got corners that are really awesome about nonbinary acceptance and some that are really honestly kinda shitty about it.

I hope I don't come across as lecturing. You've probably run into some of both. I guess I'm just trying to validate your experience and reassure you that while there are some shitty people even in the trans world, there are good folks too.

/ @gentlerdarknesses

@paideuomai @gentlerdarknesses
You don't come across as lecturing, I like clear answers!!!! 👍 :ms_grinning:

I keep thinking lately, reality is just as much in each others heads as it is in physical space. Some people dont want my mind "tainting" their reality with my fuzzy gender hat. I dont want them in my head either tbh.

But to someone whos not a gender tyrant its important to me to connect to them. :daffodil: :pigblanket:

@gentlerdarknesses 💚 💚
why is gender so messy? wish it would clean up after itself.

trans terms help please 

@PentagramPip not sure if this is helpful, but I use "gender incoherent" for myself because I feel that's the most fitting term for me. Because my gender is... messy and it doesn't seem to fit neatly anywhere and also ... I'm not sure I want it to.

trans terms help please 

@pink_ink i like gender incoherent! hehe this will be one of my answers in my next gender interrogation. I think the line between physical and neurological and mental/emotional, its not really real.... its not coherent to me anyway.

gender is a construct that wraps itself around all those things in different ways. Im not surprised it doesn't fit nicely into preexisting words, or the ideas in other peoples heads.

trans terms help please 

@PentagramPip yes! To all of that.

I also don't like the idea that gender is supposed to be this neat thing. Genderqueer works for me, too, but the incoherent part makes it explicit that sometimes it's just really hard to put into words or talk about all the gender stuff for me.

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